How much sex is good for a healthy marriage?
Generally, therapists say that sex counts as a quarter of happiness in a couple. However, new studies reveal a different theory about the amount of sex that contributes to the satisfaction of the long-term relationship.
Couples who have sex every day
If it is a relationship of one year or more, the idea of sex every day will seem unlikely. However, the 365-night book chronicles what happened with a couple who agreed to have sex all year. In the end, she said she felt happier, less angry and less stressed. Since then, hundreds of journalists and other couples have taken the challenge with greater or lesser success, the British newspaper Daily Mail recalled.
Daily sex is a big issue for very busy people, and more sex is not necessarily a good thing. A study that asked couples to have sex about six times a month to double the frequency had a disastrous effect on their sex life. They enjoyed sex less and in the worst of moods.
Most people enjoy this frequency of young people, or at the beginning of relationships, and then move on to more realistic levels.
Couples who have sex three to four times a week
A 2004 study found that the more sex a person had, the happier he felt. The Normal Bar book supports this idea. Published in 2013 and written by three American academics, it relies on thousands of surveys to find out what makes the couple happy.
Three to four times a week was the perfect amount for the main levels of happiness, according to the authors. If you do not have children, you are in good health and having a great time in your relationship, this could be the magic number.
Couples who have sex once a week
The reality is that this is the category in which the majority fit. The most recent data on sleep habits in the United Kingdom (Natsal, 2013) reported that most have sex about five times a month. The good news is that current research shows that weekly sex is not a "failure" in couples.
A study conducted in the United States in early 2016 (with 2,400 married couples) concluded that although couples who had more sex were happier, satisfaction was leveled once a week.
It allows you to find a time when you both feel relaxed enough to get aroused and it is often enough to stop the terrible pressure couples feel when there is a sex drought.
The more time you spend without sex, the greater the pressure to have sex for longer next time.
Couples who don't have sex - never
One in four couples over 50 has no sex. But far from complaining about it, 634 people surveyed by Gransnet said they felt very happy and satisfied in their sexless relationships and with only 65 percent rated sex as important.
Here is an important caveat: this is true when both parties are happy not to have sex, not when only one person decides to take the issue off the table.
Another American study also found that the greatest producer of general happiness for couples is the connection beyond sex.
It is still a generalization of society that couples who do not have sex are unhappy and clearly have problems, but that is simply not true.
One of the main reasons why couples stop having sex is not because their relationship has been spoiled, but because they are so close that the relationship has ceased to be exclusively sexual.
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